I need a safe place to voice my ever-changing opinions,
ideas and concerns,
allowing me to hear myself,
as you hear me.
This allows me an opportunity to go home
and reflect on some journaling thoughts,
like:
Was I expressing enough for others to get the truth from it?
Can I readjust it so I get positive support in it?
Definition of the word "Fixing" Story
I have to tell you a story about when I would change the living-room around monthly.
I had looked forward to having a home all my life to fix up. So at an early age, I love to redecorate the rooms, sometimes monthly.
I didn't have any money
and most all items were scrounged or given to me.
Which I was always so grateful.
I guess it was the after pleasure
I got from the end results.
Ed and I married
after my children were all grown up
and out living their own new lives.
I found myself living in a bachelor house,
where nothing ever got moved.
It felt like, every time my husband would come home to a new arrangement, the question of why
I choose this arrangement would come.
What I experienced , was he would ask the same question and find fault with my first answer.
This caused me to prepare an answer for him
and I found it would always turn out to be a list of over twenty good reasons for picking this new arrangement.
It is the same with our lives. We always have many reasons for choosing to do something.
When he asked, I knew he only wanted one good reason. but I had more than one. If I started defending my reasons, I found it took away from my joy of what I did accomplish.
It is the same when someone is sharing with this group, when we share something; we have no doubt already been through the mental debate. We often have already used many of the ideas and rejected them. Therefore, when we are sharing, we are not asking, we are sharing our thoughts so we can readjust them if needed. On our way home, you may know your answer. It must be this one mind thing. Sometime your answer will show up in a book you pick up. Maybe someone starts talking to you and the answer shows up. This is a magical world there all things are possible. Let use this class to learn to use it for us.
When I hear advice or suggestions,
this gives a feeling of, I need fixing.
NOT the feeling I want to be in,
for I am not broken.
I do not want to be counseled or be fixed.
I am here to discover.
Advice or suggestions, creates an unsafe
place to share from the heart.
Here I desire us to be able to share what needs to be articulated.
This means, even if no one understands,
it allows the speaker to understand.
It allows the speaker
to see where they are coming from.
We are here to discover ourselves.
I am doing myself a favor when I allow the senselessness to flow forth?
I know this has happened, when I hear others mirror back what I did not mean. I felt misunderstood! (red flag)
When this happens, it is a gift, embrace it. It will allow you to realize what you have been putting out to the universe.
It will give you a chance to examine your seeds.
Ask yourself questions.
Have I been putting out misinformation?
Could this be why, at times I do not feel heard?
Since we cannot change others and can only change ourselves, it is a grand opportunity!
Continue to bring clarity to it and the next time you are in a power circle, share it again , and hear it mirror back in the way you desired it the first time.
Remember the listeners are only mirroring it back the way they intuitively hear it.
There will even be times when they are mirroring back out loud an answer they needed for them self, so do not take anything personally. It becomes a gift not only to you, but also to the listener or listeners. I found it was also a gift to realize it was in the way I expressed my own words, causing me to be misunderstood. Knowing this and knowing it could be adjusted, gave me peace of mind! I realized I could not expect the universe to co-create with me, if I could not explain it to myself. That is why it is so important not to be questioned or interrupted. All we have to do is listen and feed back. Clarity will come when needed. We are not here to learn about others, we are here to learn about ourselves.
Here is where you have created topics can journal to learn more on your own. You now've become the teacher and the student and are creating your own personal homework, creating the true reason for coming to a group.
As for the person like me, I need a place to make my mistakes in front of others as I share, I know when I do.
If I get interrupted,
I am not allowed to stay focused,
on what I am saying,
and I can miss the lesson.
(bells are a gentle reminder)
Giving them an opportunity to go home and ask questions like:
